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    Negative Self-Talk Hurts. Here’s How You Can Change It.

    It’s easy to fall into negative self-talk. As a crisis hotline counselor and former Sexual Assault Specialist, it’s something I see all of the time! I can’t begin to list the number of times a person has told me, “I don’t feel worthy,” or “I hate myself.”

        While it’s normal to feel this way some of the time, excessive cases of negative self-talk can be a sign of depression. It might be worth talking to a counselor about! In the meantime, I’ve listed some things you can do that might help you feel better.


    1. Recognize the thoughts are negative! It can be easy to accept your thoughts as truth, but it’s important to question those beliefs. 
    2. Try to distract yourself with something you love! Can you go for a walk, talk to a friend, listen to music? 
    3. Talk to someone! I mentioned talking to a friend earlier – I’m serious! Talk to a friend, or a loved one. If there’s no one there, then consider journaling your thoughts. Hate to write? Talk to your pet!
    4. Get a counselor! You can visit or to see different affordable and often virtual options. 
    5. Need help now? Consider visiting a hotline. I’m on Crisis Textline, so I’m biased… there’s also, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, and the more informal 7 Cups of Tea. 

        “Indeed, some studies show that personality traits such as optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being. The positive thinking that usually comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management,” the Mayo Clinic says.  They recommend getting exercise, eating as healthily as possible, and trying to sleep well in order to improve self-talk. 

        You deserve to feel better. You’re worthy of help. Please don’t forget that. 

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